When we feel unsatisfied with what's happening in our lives - whether it be with our partners, our friendships, our job, etc - it's typical for us to focus solely on what other people should and should not do so that we can become satisfied again. Lex talks us through how navigating like this is actually out of integrity, a grand manipulation to get what we want, and that it never turns out to provide us the lasting and ultimate satisfaction that we all yearn for. Dive deep with Lex as she reveals the teachings of the word "tripti" and that true satisfaction lies within you regardless of what the hell is going on in your life.
We all find ourselves in moments when we know that we should "let go" but a part of us is clinging (maybe even death-gripped) to the job, the relationship, the city, the experience, etc. Lex offers a fresh perspective on letting go by unpacking the truth that letting go is something that happens inside instead of outside ourselves. She highlights that we are never actually called to let go of the job, the relationship, the person, the money, but that we are only required to let go of one thing and one thing only..."the one inside of us that is clinging." This realization will help us let go of the "monkey mind" driving us bananas and instead delivers us to a "monk mind," non-attached, present and holding all we cherish with an open hand instead of a clenched fist.
We live in a world were we have decided to treat "TRUTH" as a luxury. What is a luxury? Something we can live without, something we don't absolutely need to survive, and it's something we treat ourselves or others to every once in awhile. This mentality creates chaos in our lives because, as Lex will explain, Truth is the foundation of our existence. It isn't a luxury but is essential and fundamental! Tune in to dive deeper into how important it is to follow the road less traveled and be "Truth-Tellers" in all the moments of our lives.
While most of us are pros at disciplining ourselves in the physical world - getting to work on time, picking up our children from school, exercising a certain number of days a week - we are typically more willing to discipline ourselves in the physical world long before we are willing to discipline the mind. This episode draws inspiration from bowling and archery helping to teach us that we must discipline anything in the mind that leads us into the gutter or makes us miss our mark.
We must learn to be strong at heart when we are put under pressure. The philosophy of Tantra is one we can adopt to support us in opening up beyond body and mind when we’re over the discomfort created by prolonged periods of “pressure” - whether that’s pressure to perform, pressure to provide, pressure to stay or pressure go. Lex helps listeners by providing a new perspective to adopt the next time they find themselves under the pressure of transformation and awakening.
Joseph Campbell said the secret to life is to "Follow Your Bliss." Sounds simple enough, eh? Lex points out that this "following of bliss" has much more to do with ancient Indian Philosophy than it does with sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll! Tune in to this episode to learn how following your bliss as it relates to your "dharma" will lead to living a life of ultimate fulfillment.
The mind will constantly present to us desire after desire, encouraging us to believe that if we get what we want on the other side of it we will be happy, content and free. Except the mind will never set us free and is actually the very reason we feel trapped to begin with. Lex speaks to the teaching of mumukshutvam which is said to be the one desire that actually ends all desires, and in turn sets you free.
Have you ever considered what the primary motivating force is behind the decisions you make? Lex breaks down the difference between navigating in life moment by moment choosing what will make you happy in the now vs. what will restore your remembrance of the deep realm of peace lying with you. Tune in to learn how to get off the dramatic rollercoaster of happiness and return your awareness to consistently abide in the peace within you.
Ya know somethings you just can’t plan for.🤷🏻♀️ If you would have asked me a few years ago if I would dedicate my extra spending money to traveling around the US (and really the world) just to sit in the same room as a Saint from India…I would have told you exactly what I told a friend back then. “I mean, I see myself making it a habit of going once a year or something.” ☝🏻
My friend laughed at me and said, “Yeah we’ll see.” For she saw in me something that I hadn’t even acknowledged within myself. That’s the beautiful thing about relationships ya know, they reflect to us all the things we wish we could see, hhahah and all the things we avoid looking at. 🙈🤦🏻♀️ A mirror simply reflects. It’s unbiased. My relationship with this Saint from India is exactly the same.
I planned to see this woman called Amma – her nickname “The Hugging Saint” – a few times this summer. Yet after each city I attended I’d come home, beyond blissed out and sleep deprived, and after a night or two of sleep, I felt the call to go back. So I would hop on a plane and go. Each time thinking that it would be enough. But it’s never enough! Why?
It’s never enough because who is tired of true, compassionate love? Who is tired of being seen right through? Like in the way you’ve been dying your whole life for someone to look at you, but at the same time you’re beyond terrified of being seen that way? To show someone your beautiful potential alongside your ugliness, handing it over “Ugh…here ya go.” 😫🥴 Taking off your mask and allowing yourself to be totally exposed and undefended, and for that someone to pull you into their arms and hold you anyway!! Come on, that’s not some ordinary human love. For this someone to wipe your tears. To kiss your cheek. To whisper comforting words. To make you laugh with just a facial expression when you’ve made a mistake. Who is ever tired of feeling for a split second that you are the very center of the entire Universe?
In my five cities in five weeks with Amma I road an incredible rollercoaster. Like a teeter totter rocking back and forth between mind-blowing transcendental moments of awakening, and hitting rock bottom with some incredibly embarrassing, regretful, shameful, guilt-ridden, sad, heart-heavy stuff. (This was no vacation😆) And yet the little glimpses of TRUTH, those revelations when I saw everything SO clearly, although far less in number, still outweigh all the human consciousness “shit.” Which only proves to me how valuable this time is for me to sit in her presence. Even though smaller in number, the revelations make the wild ride worth it.
All in all…I leave Amma’s yearning to go right back, hahah but I don’t think my digestion can take anymore chocolate cake and chai. 😆
Love is such a miraculously beautiful thing…it always invites us – hahahah and in moments shoves us – towards opening in the places we didn’t even know we were closed. To trust where we are afraid. It turns on a light in the most darkened corners of our minds and hearts. Love inspires us to go beyond what rationality tells us is possible. Love holds the entirety of who we are in this moment without judgement. Love calls us into our own strength. It reminds us that we are capable when we doubt. Love cleanses our hurts with both tenderness and wisdom. The ups and down, the highs the lows, the mistakes, the blessings…Love has a way of making it all perfect in the end, and every step of the way worthwhile.
I can’t help but tear up as I write this, cause real true love, beyond the egoic lens we all look through, is the substance, the fabric, the matter that makes everything else MATTER.
We often times think that in order to make our dreams come true, to be fulfilled in life, and achieve those things we deeply desire, that we must cultivate incredible willpower to "get shit done." Lex offers an alternative perspective to willpower and that instead of it being an "action" orientated quality, it can be an "attitudinal" quality. And then this attitudinal shift can help we balance our willpower with surrender, and drop us right into the sweet spot we're all dying to get to.
The quality of fortitude is essential for those of us embarking on the inner path, it is what helps us to persevere through the gritty/uncomfortable moments of growing on the inside, leading us to the final "glow" moment of awakening and transformation. Lex touches upon the ancient energetic system of "the gunas" to paint a picture of what inner growth actually looks like.
The mind is never satisfied. Never. It is the conditioning of the mind causing us to favor our personal sensitivities and preferences instead of accepting the moment unfolding before us. Lex speaks on how true freedom isn't escaping through the mind (or getting what you want!) but rather bringing to the moment whatever the moment is calling forth in you.
All of us cherish the times of our lives when we are in "flow," when the moments unfold effortlessly and we feel aligned with ourselves, those around us and life itself. Then there are the times we experience being out of flow and we are presented with problem after problem. Lex offers a fresh perspective regarding how to view all the problems of our lives, which will actually support us all into getting back into the flow.
We oftentimes end up clinging to our "truth" regardless of whether or not it is an accurate and complete perception of the ultimate reality. Perception is extremely important for even false perceptions create your reality and when we perceive in error oftentimes the result is some degree of suffering, tightness or disillusion. Lex dives into how we can practice "perceiving" correctly in just a simple step.
Suffering is created by resisting what is unfolding in your life. It's that simple. In this episode Lex dives deep into the stages of the "creative cycle"and applies this cycle to the world of relationships.